Every single issue of Cosmo promises “red hot,” “toe-curling,” “intense,” “unbelievable” sex. But sex therapist Theodore Rubin warns:
“Sexual athletics simply cannot provide long-lasting or deeper satisfactions, and to expect them to is asking for disappointment—disappointment that is destructive to all areas of the relationship.”
So, what are the secrets to truly sensational sex? First, the bad news. Sex has become an Olympic event!
“Ukraine Lois Elaine, known for her gymnastic skills, is going for a triple orgasm which is a “10” for “degree of difficulty.” Both Lois and her partner, James, have scored well for “artistic impression” and “technical merit” in the last round, but James was penalized two-tenths of a point for a “balance check.” Here comes the dismount. Wow, he really stuck that landing! This could put this couple in the medal round!”
We’re coached by such books as How to Satisfy a Woman Every Time, Hot, Sexy, and Safe, Sex Begins in the Kitchen, Super Marital Sex, and The Multiple-orgasm Male. (I’m not making these up! Really!)
Dr. Theodore Rubin in One to One
“This stress on mechanics is destructive. It leads to superficialities and to pride investment in performance rather than healthy interest in richer relating. Sexual athletics simply cannot provide long-lasting or deeper satisfactions, and to expect them to is asking for disappointment—disappointment that is destructive to all areas of the relationship.”
It’s also important to point out that The Kinsey Report on sexuality was written by a zoologist who interviewed prostitutes and imprisoned pedophiles! (Hopefully, not an accurate demographic sampling.) The famous sex-pert Masters (of Masters and Johnson) was a gynecologist. They approached the subject in lab coats, rather than observing the emotional and spiritual dynamics of a loving relationship. So, whatever good the Kinsey Report and Masters and Johnson have provided in the techniques of sexual intimacy, has overshadowed the artistic merit of nurturing loving relationships.
Secret 1: Communication
At one marriage clinic, 650 couples were asked what was the greatest problems in their marriage. The virtually unanimous answer was “sex and communication.” They are closely related!
You’ll need to stop and read the expanded article on communication for this chapter to make complete sense. Click “No Hablo Estrogen.” And then click BACK. (Guys, you’ve already jumped ahead, haven’t you? Believe me, the article is an essential read for sensational sex!)
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